Do we lead by example or try to teach them every little thing we know? Or both? As my oldest son quickly approaches high school I began to seriously contemplate all the things we need to teach him before he goes off on his own. But the list is endless! Trust me, I’m the weirdo that actually started making a list and it was not a good idea, it only made me more overwhelmed!
Of course, I think school is important. I’ve even considered homeschooling over the years. But when I think about all of the things I want to teach my kids, I decided that I should let the school cover academics so I can try to take care of all the rest!
I know I’m not the first parent to have these thoughts. I hear a lot about young people from my friends who work at universities and such. How their parents take care of every little thing. Or how their parents call the university at the slightest problem. Will our kids know how to start investing, deal with life when it gets really real and hard, or check their oil when they graduate? Do they even want to learn these things, and if so, from their parents? But in this world of YouTube, can’t you learn to do absolutely anything on your own online?
I don’t have an answer to this but my plan is this:
- Show them safe and real resources for ways to learn about things
- Teach and show them the things that we think are important
- Conversation and commutation skills are important
- Independence is important. Kindness and self-care are important
- Money management and working hard are important
I could go on forever but these are the things on my mind to teach them lately!
I can’t teach my kids every single life skill ever needed, because my kids will need some life skills and have some interests that I don’t even know exist yet! I love lists and I write down tidbits about life in a journal here and there. We talk to our kids a lot. Not in lecture form (well I try not to anyway) but usually in stories or funny anecdotes. We all know that we learn best by making our own mistakes, but in the meantime, I’ll keep living my best life and know that some parts will rub off on my kids someday!
And it turns out that our own ASU has a website dedicated to adulting too!
I’d love to hear your thoughts on teaching our kids “adulting!”